Being the busy moms that we are, Melissa and I were unfortunately not able to get together for a face to face chat but we came up with a perfect alternative: I sent her a few specific questions and she answered them in her own words. I was planning on then editing her answers into paragraph form but I just loved her natural responses I kept them like they were 🙂
Chatting with Melissa
C: Tell me about your family
M: I have two boys with my husband, Craig. Parker, who is 4, and Ryan, who is 17 months.
C: Where are you from?
M: I’m from Cotati. My parents still live in the house I grew up in. It’s cool to see my kids playing and having the same experiences I did.
C: Tell me a little about you and your husband, how you met, when you were married etc
M: Craig and I met at Orchard Supply Hardware here in Petaluma when we were 18. We were both working there through college and both were in other relationships that ended about the same time. I remember being a bit sad at work one day and he stopped to talk to me a bit. We discussed fishing, how I fly fished in Idaho every year and how he bass fished all the time. Then he said that we should go fishing sometime. Well, I don’t think he knew who he was talking to ‘cause I kept trying to take him up on his offer. “When can we go fishing…. when are you gonna take me fishing….how about that fishing trip?” I was persistent. I eventually asked him if he wanted meto stop asking him out. He said, “I don’t want you to not stop asking.” What? Then he laughed realizing how that sentence came out and said, “Keep asking me.” We went out the next week and had a great time at a local pond. He taught me how to bass fish and I cooked him dinner that night. You might say I had him hooked.
C: You are a nurse right? Tell me a little about being a nurse. Have you noticed if motherhood has influenced your approach to nursing?
M: I work at Kaiser Permanente on a medical-telemetry floor taking care of people with a variety of health issues, most of which have a heart related component which requires monitoring. The majority of the population is advanced in age, and I’ve helped many people through the last phase of life. I think motherhood has affected my nursing practice in many subtle ways. For one, I look at patients and think that some mother birthed this person so many years ago, was so happy to hold them and raise them and watch them grow. It makes me see how fleeting life is and sad that one day I will have to leave my babies. But I wouldn’t trade one day without them. The second way motherhood had affected my nursing is my level of patience. I feel it’s less. A lot less. Don’t get me wrong, I can watch grass grow, but rudeness, childishness, and selfishness are quick ways to make my skin crawl. There are so many days where I’m thinking that my 4 year old has better manners than some people…but, then I take a breath and remind myself that they are sick and might not be themselves. I try my best to give people the benefit of the doubt. Now, nursing has definitely affected me as a mother. If you’re not bleeding, have bones sticking out somewhere, or turning blue, you’re probably ok, let’s dial it back a notch
C: Describe your life before kids in two sentences.
M: It’s only been 4.5 years, but it’s hard to remember! I slept so much before I had kids. I had time and money to work out at the gym and bed as fit as I wanted to be.
C: Does your family have any special traditions?
M: Yes! We go to Idaho every July for 2 weeks and go camping. My grandpa’s family started camping there when he was 4, almost 100 years ago! We hike and fish, ride ATVs, and relax by the river in camp. And then every winter, usually the weekend after Thanksgiving, we go up to the mountains and cut down our Christmas tree. I love getting to see my boys live the same memories I have growing up.
C: What is your favorite aspect of being in the PMC?
M: The willingness of mommas to help each other out. Whether it’s a meal train or watching a little one last minute, or advice in the middle of the night, if you reach out for help, you’re certain to find what you need. The 2016 playgroup has been such a source of R&R for me. I’ve met some very good friends and it’s always a joy to get together and see our kids grow up. And I know from experience now, that you get out of if what you put in, so I’m doing my best to help out wherever I can.
C: What is your favorite part of being a mom?
M: I LOVE snuggles. My first wasn’t a snuggler, but my second is a little bit. And I love listening to my boys making each other laugh. The giggles just brighten my day. Emotionally, spiritually, I feel like I found my purpose in being a mom. It comes with a joy that no other person or activity can bring you and a reason to make our home and this little corner of the world a better place. This time I have, being the most important thing in my boy’s lives, is so short. I’m just trying to live it up now because I know there will be a day where I can’t kiss them before leaving school, before I’m the meanest mother in the world, and before another person will come along and steal their hearts.
C: What makes you laugh?
M: So much stuff! I have some pretty wicked laugh lines to prove it. I’m a goofy person once you get to know me. I laugh a lot at myself, and my family. There’s something amazing about a good belly laugh. I love all the old Chris Farley SNL skits. And I gotta have more cow bell.
C: Do you have a favorite movie, TV show, book?
M: I love the Walking Dead! My husband and I watch it together and totally geek out on it. My favorite movie is A League of Their Own. I really enjoyed Harry Potter and the Hunger Games trilogy (I secretly love Tween fiction novels!). Otherwise, I’ve read all the Bones Temperance Brennan novels. I stated reading them when I was taking anatomy classes at the JC for nursing school. I considered it studying. Sadly, I’ve had a hard time finding time to read once my second came along.
C: How do you envision life in one year?
M: In a year, I see us out of diapers!!! At least in the daytime. I think we’re going to be entering into a really fun time with the boys where we can go on little vacations and not be bogged sound with nap times and all the baby stuff. Both will be in school, so I will have more time to myself. I’ll probably be working more to pay for our trip to Italy (hopefully we can go next year!!!!). I would be over the moon if I could get into the L&D training program at work, but I might have to wait longer on that one. I see that my boys are growing up so fast and thinking ahead a year makes me sad, so I’ll just try and envision life next week!